Jennifer Lopez admits she’s never felt truly loved, says her exes were just not ‘capable’

Jennifer Lopez is opening up about why her most recent divorce ended up being “the best thing” for her.

During a recent interview on SiriusXM’s “Howard Stern Show,” the 56-year-old actress and singer discussed her 2024 divorce from Ben Affleck.

“When I got divorced this last time, it was the best thing that ever happened to me,” the singer explained. “Because it really made me journey into — I mean, I had a religious coach. I had a therapist, a couple’s therapist, an individual therapist. I had a coach to understand addiction. I had everything. I was like, ‘I’m gonna f***ing figure this s*** out if it k!lls me.'”

The “Hustlers” star has been married four times, most notably to Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014, and to Affleck from 2022 to 2024.

When asked by Stern if she believes she’s ever “truly been loved,” Lopez said “no,” but that she knows what it means to truly love someone else. She also shared that part of the reason she feels that way is because “I didn’t love myself.”

“What I learned, it’s not that I’m not lovable — it’s that they’re not capable. … They don’t have it in them,” she said, adding, “And they gave me what they had. They gave me all of it, every time. All the rings, all the things I could ever want. The houses, the rings, the marriage. All of it. But.…”

After working through her divorce, Lopez said she is now “able to sit here in a much more self-assured, self-aware way” and reflect on everything that has happened in her life.

“Whether my mother, my father, in my own life, how I learned to love, how I felt neglected — all the things that are in your head as a person — and know who I am and just really appreciate that person,” she explained. “[I] feel really comfortable and good in being myself, all the good parts and all the kind of complicated things.”